I’m sorry.Although I will admit to this being mine, I’d like to think it’s not that bad usually. Real life typing quirks are not so much fun.
Can you explain why you do it, though? I mean, is there an actual reason for the ellipses? I’m honestly curious. I see a lot of people doing this and I have never understood why.
Switching to reblog to type more.
I’ve been doing it for 15+ years so I don’t entirely remember. But some of it was to show extended pauses or breaks in thought as well as a bit of emotion in how the text should be read. I know I started in on it when I did a lot of roleplaying in MUDs where my characters were some combination of shy or not forceful and easily distracted.
I use it now to mostly show places where my thoughts don’t firmly end like a period would signify (which happens quite frequently). Sometimes its just a soft ending and sometimes its a trail off because I got distracted by a new/different idea. Also after doing it for so long I don’t even notice that I’m putting them in. I’m thinking very consciously about how I’m typing this message to avoid them.
However, all that comes with the big disclaimer that I would never, ever use them out of place in a work or professional setting. It’s for chatting with friends and casual comments on the Internet.
This is what I’m objecting to:
"What I sent you was the proposal from last year and I did not make any changes at all…so yeah…the years have to change and all the placements have to change…which I have not worked on at all…I am going to try and get at it today….and yes, I see this as we will be funded…just not sure of the amount….and what I have to work on is the prospective placements…..it might be nice to have some new filler put in about where [program] is going….we have those new wheels and a new branding campaign…but honestly they don’t really care about that…they really just want the budget, the final report from this year and the new placements….and that is about it…"
That is all one sentence. The effect it gives is of someone leaning on the desk and looking at the ceiling, twirling a lock of hair or a phone cord round their finger, possibly chewing bubblegum, totally unable to make up their mind about what it is they want to say.
I’m fine with using the enter key as punctuation in casual online chat (and it’s necessary when writing Dave’s pesterlogs) and I love me some ellipses used to indicate an actual pause or trailing off from one idea or moment to another. Starting a sentence with one is probably wrong as hell, but it works for me extremely effectively to indicate that a character is taken aback or has to think about what they’re going to say:
He blinked at her. “…In effect, yes, although it’s not quite that simple.”
The ellipsis is a wonderful thing. But it has a specific effect, and when it’s used as a sort of delimiter without actually acknowledging that effect, it makes me twitch.
when people use it the way your nasal cockroach recipient is using it, i take it as an indication that the writer is the type of coy, who-me asshole who never takes responsibility for their words. you can’t commit to punctuation, you pile all this emotional loading onto a topic that shouldn’t be emotional, you try to come across as shy and hesitant — that is SO manipulative.
it’s the same continuum as those posts that are like, “i may be just a poor little wee bunbun, but am i a terrible horrible no good very bad person for thinking [offensive opinion]? don’t get mad at me tho just be nice if you disagree or i’ll have to go cry in the bathtub! [cute emoji]”
of course, using it to roleplay a shy, hesitant person, like nke mentioned, is very effective and totally appropriate. and as cc illustrated, very handy for controlling the rhythm of written dialogue.
it’s just using it to avoid sounding definite, in an attempt to present yourself as too precious to be criticized, that steams me.